your kids see through your bullshit

our kids see through our bull shit.

well, they feel through it, at least.

psycho-cybernetics author maxwell maltz reminds us that “it is not the child who is told about love who knows how to love. it is the child who experiences love who knows how to love”.

this hit hard.

how often do we hold expectations for our children to behave in a way that most adults struggle to do themselves?

how are we embodying the very ways by which we guide our children to be?

when we tell our kids to “calm down” without truly embodying what it means, looks like, and feels like to calm down, it will only be so long before they call us on our bluff.

when we truly embody a state of regulation, vitality, resilience, adaptability, and love, we are inherently giving our children permission to do the same.

our kids have one job, and that is to fit in with their tribe. their tribe being their nuclear family. their tribe being YOU.

when we can lead the way through embodied practices, we’re making it that much easier on our children to learn in an embodied way themselves.