who should start care first?

if it comes down to cost, who should begin care first?
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for most of my families, the natural inclination is to want to get kiddos under care first, however we actually recommend starting with mama if it comes down to having to choose.
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the reason being our kiddos are constantly mirroring the person with whom they regulate from the most often, so in offering mama support, helping her to feel connected to herself, resilient, and resourced, babe/kids will learn how to access more of that within themselves.
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we all want to be a part of a tribe.
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and we do this by imitating those closest to us.
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folding your little one in to care once mom is embodying and accessing her resilience, regulation, and strong foundation of self typically allows for more profound shifts in the child and family unit.