the mask we wear for our kids

bridging the gap between who we are and who we show up as✨

we have had countless mothers over the last weeks sit on our tables and share with us that they feel that there is such a gap between how they interface with their children externally and the internal reality of care, bandwidth, and compassion.

is it realistic for us to feel like we can be “on” all time time?

this then begs the question of whether or not we are showing up authentically around our children to begin with.

what if we did, in fact, allow our children to see all sides of us?

to see our humanity, our fatigue, our grit, our love, our passion, our joy, our frustration?

who said we had to conceal those sides of ourselves from our children?

we think it is important to honor that those states of being exist within us — all of them. and we want to encourage the reality of what it means to raise humans to be at the forefront of all that is.

if we only show them the culturally deemed “positive” sides of us, how are we teaching them they have to be in this world? 

we would be insinuating that the masks we put on in our varying roles are necessary for survival, as opposed to the real necessity being that of stepping further into our own authenticity.

parents, not that you need it from us, but consider this permission to take off the mask. To be you. To show the stress, the frustration, the rage, the conflict.

and on the other side, work really hard to show the resolve, the regulation, the recoil.

because that is, and has been, the missing piece in many of our own upbringings.

this is how we do differently for our children.